5 Reasons Why Guys Cheat on Girlfriend’s & The Reason Behind It.

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Why Do People Cheat on People They Love?

It’s tough to understand why people cheat on people they love. Sometimes, people decide to cheat because they feel unloved or have fallen out of love with their partner. Sometimes, they feel the romance is gone from their relationship, and having an illicit romance gives them a sense of excitement. Sometimes they feel deep shame, pain, and regret, and they don’t feel like their partner can know about it, so they turn to another person. Other times, there may not appear to be a logical reason your partner has hurt you in this way. Regardless of what happened or the reasons they give you, remember not to take on the responsibility or blame. If your spouse or partner has cheated on you, their choice to be unfaithful was not your fault. It is their responsibility to understand where they went wrong and accept the consequences of their behavior. Rather than running back to them at the first sign of regret or apology, you need to take the time and space you need to heal. After all, re-entering into a relationship with someone whose dishonesty hurt you so deeply may not be emotionally safe. Talking with a mentor or counselor can help you understand and heal from the pain of cheating in a safe space with someone you can trust. 

Cheating.  This is not an “every-guy thing,” you know. Lots of boyfriends are honest, they keep to their promises, and they do. Not. Cheat. When it is time for a dating relationship to end, they end it and move on. In other words, they don’t start something with another girl while they are still in a dating relationship.

Some of you girls are already thinking, On what planet do those guys live? I’ve never known a guy like that. If that is the case, maybe you need to start hanging around with a different group of guys.

If you have a history of dating cheaters or know way too many girls who have, then you might need to rethink how you pick your boyfriends. We’ll get to that later.

 And, yes, I know girlfriends can cheat too, but today we will talk about boyfriends.

Reasons Guys Cheat

There is lots of advice floating around in books, blogs, and everyday conversations about why guys cheat. But if you haven’t figured this out yet, you will eventually discover that many reasons are really not that complex.

The male approach to dating lies somewhere between a caveman and a mechanical engineer, often more like the caveman. So, I have simplified the WHY of cheating by whittling it down to five things. This is not intended to be a complete list, mind you. But understanding these few simple things about guys could help you a lot.

Boyfriends Cheat because they want out of the relationship

Dustin wrote: I think the 2 main reasons guys cheat goes like this:  1) Guys get stuck with a clingy girl. He figures maybe she’ll change over the course of a few months. He really likes the girl for many of her character traits but notices that she’s not going to let him go.

Miss Insecurity is dating Mr. Self-Confident, and with that relationship, she is trying desperately to plug some pretty big holes in her own self-esteem.  She becomes obsessed with her boyfriend. You know how that usually turns out…clinginess, jealousy, anger, tears.

But Miss Insecurity doesn’t want to press Mr. Self-Confident too hard about his commitment. She would prefer to assume (or in some cases, dream) he is as committed to her as she is to him.  But Mr. Self-Confident isn’t committed at all and is, in fact, trying to figure a way out.

One reason guys cheat is that they want out of the relationship but aren’t brave enough to break up, so they cheat to have an excuse to get out.

Boyfriends Cheat because their Relationship Goals are Different

Then some guys are very willing to talk about the relationship. They make lots of promises, using words like,  “I love you,” “you’re so beautiful,” and “spend our lives together.”
The girlfriend might be saying the same words, but there is a difference. Some girls give a lot and put up with a lot to get what they want most…the relationship. And most often, in the end, they end up with a broken heart.

On the other hand, some guys (including those more likely to cheat) come at it from the other direction. They get excited about the relationship too, but only because the relationship is the way to get what they want…usually sex.

It’s pretty simple..  she wants a relationship, so much so that she is willing to offer sex to get it. He wants sex, even if he has to have some relationship to get it. But cheating violates the relationship, not the sex.  To put it bluntly…guys cheat because the relationship was never their goal...it was the sex.

Boyfriends Cheat because they aren’t strong enough to resist the temptation

Boyfriends who cheat don’t always do it with a plan in mind. Remember, guys; they are not that complex. You probably know about some girls who stalk guys like sexual predators- they try in every way they can to get them to cheat. Unfortunately, some guys don’t have what it takes to refuse.

Boyfriends cheat because of the influences around them

Check this out…when it comes to being faithful to wives and girlfriends, one of the most important factors is a guy’s parents. Generally speaking, guys who grow up in homes where their parents cheat find it much easier to do the same thing.

Counselor Gary Neuman asked 200 cheating and non-cheating husbands about why they cheated. He found that 77% of cheating men have a good friend who also cheated.  Some guys give in easily to the temptation to cheat because that is what their friends and family do. It would help if you did not judge a guy by what those around him do, but don’t underestimate the power of influence.

Boyfriends cheat because they got away with it before

Do you remember Tiger Woods? He was married to one of the hottest women on the planet, but he was a big-time cheater with many women. (BTW, only 12% of cheating husbands in the Neuman study said that the women they cheated with were more physically attractive than their wives.)

The guy cheated once, then twice, then three times. It became easier and easier to give in, harder and harder to say no. If you are dating a guy who cheated before, there is a good chance he will cheat on you too, even if from the beginning he never planned it that way. If he has cheated more than once, it is even more likely that it will happen again.

Bears Repeating – This is Not ALL Men

These five reasons don’t paint a very favorable picture of guys…so let me reiterate, this is NOT all men.  And while it might be hard for a cheater to change his ways, it’s not impossible.  Sometimes, people are truly ashamed of a choice they made and would like to undo the past.  In fact, if you are the Cheater, here are 5 Life-Changing Steps for you! My point in this blog is to point out things to look for and consider if you find yourself in a relationship with someone who cheats.

Giving it a Reason Doesn’t Make it Hurt Any Less.

Just because you may now be able to determine the reason your boyfriend cheated on you, it doesn’t mean it hurts any less. In fact, it might hurt even more. So I want you to know, right now, that you can and will get through this. Many others have walked this path before. You might learn some tough lessons through the process, but you can come out on the other side of this stronger and ready for a healthy relationship.

Also read: How to Get Over a Breakup

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